It wasn't until I lost control, that I figure out how to actually get control of my anger. And, it's not like they teach you this in school. It seems most people take it for granted not realizing that chaotic anger is learned behavior being passed down from generation to generation. However, with a little life experience and some intellectual insight, people like me are here to share their stories so you know what to watch out for, how to control your emotions and anger, and then re-learn new behaviors so you don't get out of control.
It's really like this, you have to be your own parent and take responsibility for your life, period.
From an online article posted by medicalnewstoday.com -
"Anger is a natural, healthy emotion. However, it can arise out of proportion to its trigger. In these cases, the emotion can impede a person’s decision-making, damage relationships, and otherwise cause harm. Learning to control anger can limit the emotional damage." https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/162035
Therefore we have what is called "Anger Management."
"Mind, a major mental health charity in the United Kingdom, identifies three main steps for controlling anger:
1. Recognize the early signs of anger.
2. Give yourself time and space to process the triggers.
3. Apply techniques that can help you control the anger.
But there are some myths associated with anger.
In an online article posted by helpguide.org - some common myths include:
Myth: I shouldn’t “hold in” my anger. It’s healthy to vent and let it out.
Fact: While it’s true that suppressing and ignoring anger is unhealthy, venting is no better. Anger is not something you have to “let out” in an aggressive way in order to avoid blowing up. In fact, outbursts and tirades only fuel the fire and reinforce your anger problem.
Myth: Anger, aggression, and intimidation help me earn respect and get what I want.
Fact: Respect doesn’t come from bullying others. People may be afraid of you, but they won’t respect you if you can’t control yourself or handle opposing viewpoints. Others will be more willing to listen to you and accommodate your needs if you communicate in a respectful way.
Myth: I can’t help myself. Anger isn’t something you can control.
Fact: You can’t always control the situation you’re in or how it makes you feel, but you can control how you express your anger. And you can communicate your feelings without being verbally or physically abusive. Even if someone is pushing your buttons, you always have a choice about how to respond.